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Another Engaging Men Workshop, Another Abusive Experience

I presented at the International Conference on Violence, Abuse and Trauma on August 24, 2015, where I also attended many workshops. One was about engaging men, as several usually are these days. I’ve written quite a bit about efforts to engage men in preventing violence against women and girls. My writing about this is known to take the form of critique. As with my MPA … Continue reading Another Engaging Men Workshop, Another Abusive Experience

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I’m Disappointed In My (White) Friends

Many of my friends disappoint me. Today, devastate may be a more accurate term. Here’s the deal. Some of my white friends have in no way, 0%, showed any support at all for the #blacklivesmatter movement. Not even an acknowledgement said in passing to me. It’s like it doesn’t exist to them. Which is impossible. My friend Stacia and I talk about the pressure to be … Continue reading I’m Disappointed In My (White) Friends

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The World Doesn’t Need Another Nonprofit: For Those Who Miss ‘Connect the Dots’

I wish I could say I don’t miss Connect the Dots. I do. Some nights are filled with intense regret. Several people contact me each month with pleas to start the project again. Sometimes I’m surprised that people still remember it. Sometimes I yearn to have it back. Then I have to remind myself some of the main reasons I closed it in the first … Continue reading The World Doesn’t Need Another Nonprofit: For Those Who Miss ‘Connect the Dots’

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Take Care of Yourself! Blaming and Shaming People with Illnesses

My brother died in 2007. He had a very rare form of cancer. The time between figuring out what was wrong and his death was short – 6 months. And you know what happened most often when I told people about it during that six months? People blamed him. “Have you told him about The China Study? About how eating meat causes cancer?” No. No … Continue reading Take Care of Yourself! Blaming and Shaming People with Illnesses

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“Well what does your husband do?”: Class Expectations and Ignorance in Nonprofit Work Environments

Lately I feel like I’m in the business of saying things no one else will. It’s not that everyone doesn’t want to – some can’t. I know two particularly strong women leaders who lost their jobs for doing just that. So in an environment that punishes those who stand up for what’s right, no matter how taboo the topic, why would anyone take a chance? … Continue reading “Well what does your husband do?”: Class Expectations and Ignorance in Nonprofit Work Environments