It’s Okay to Disengage

So much pressure. I teach personal and social adjustment this semester. A foundational concept in the class is the paradox of progress. Simply put, technological advances have been great, but they also cause a lot of stress. We’re just so plugged in. And worse, we’re expected to stay plugged in. At all times. But seriously, it’s okay to take a break. I remember, acutely, waiting … Continue reading It’s Okay to Disengage

Gun Control is Only Part of the Solution: On Mass Shootings in the U.S.

Yesterday’s shooting at Umpqua Community College in Roseburg, Oregon has my social media feeds full of calls for gun control. They are also full of statements about people with varying mental health statuses. Psychos, sociopaths. “Your prayers aren’t enough,” many are saying. I wholeheartedly agree. In the U.S., this pretty much happens all the time. That’s what everyone has been saying and it’s so true. … Continue reading Gun Control is Only Part of the Solution: On Mass Shootings in the U.S.

We can do better.

Another Engaging Men Workshop, Another Abusive Experience

I presented at the International Conference on Violence, Abuse and Trauma on August 24, 2015, where I also attended many workshops. One was about engaging men, as several usually are these days. I’ve written quite a bit about efforts to engage men in preventing violence against women and girls. My writing about this is known to take the form of critique. As with my MPA … Continue reading Another Engaging Men Workshop, Another Abusive Experience

#blacklivesmatter

I’m Disappointed In My (White) Friends

Many of my friends disappoint me. Today, devastate may be a more accurate term. Here’s the deal. Some of my white friends have in no way, 0%, showed any support at all for the #blacklivesmatter movement. Not even an acknowledgement said in passing to me. It’s like it doesn’t exist to them. Which is impossible. My friend Stacia and I talk about the pressure to be … Continue reading I’m Disappointed In My (White) Friends